How not to Break Down after a Break Up

Creating relationships is by far one of the most daunting tasks and challenges in our life, whether it’s a simple friendship between neighbor, office mates and co-workers, and anybody you might pass by in the streets to the more meaningful and complicated relationship with that special someone. We are at our happiest moments when we love and are loved in return, but what happens when we break up with our special someone?

Life can be cruel sometimes. Just when you thought that everything is going so smooth and well and you think that you would finally get that happy ending that you so desperately want would change in a blink of an eye. A break up between couples would occur due to unfortunate circumstances, contributed by stupidity or destiny. Regardless of the circumstance and reason for the break up, we always end up as a down-trodden broken down shell of a human being; depressed, low on self esteem, and probably as fragile as a champagne glass on top of a bull’s head. The healing process takes a lot of time, depending on the strength and will of a person to move on and forget about the past. Most would just sulk around for months, even years, grasping to that one false piece of hope that he/she will get their ex back. Breaking down after a break up is the normal and usual routine we go through, just like what happens to a computer after it crashes from a malicious software, the only difference being that the computer would eventually reboot after it has been fixed. So why can’t we be just like a computer and simply reboot our broken down self after a break up? Once we begin to fix our broken selves, we can move on to fixing what was also broken: the relationship.

Whether you want to move on or strive to get your ex back, try to do the following tips mentioned below. They will speed up the healing and recovery process of moving on but take note some will be painful:

1.)No communications– it’s a noble act when we try to communicate with our former lovers in the hopes of hanging on, or simply being there for them when they don’t want us there in the first place. This act only benefits them and hurts us all at once. Cutting off communications between your ex is the baby steps to moving on.
2.)Keeping busy– with work, friends and family, and other fun stuff rather than sulking around in the dark corner of your bedroom is the best way to forget about someone. Remember how our mothers would dangle a toy in front of us before swiping that bandage off? Same thing with keeping busy. Doing something fun will help you recover faster because your mind is focusing on that something fun that you’re doing and ignoring the painful stuff.

Basically, these are just the 2 simple steps to hasten the healing process. Although some would advise you to start dating as a sign of moving on, but in all that’s honest to goodness, it’s not ideal. It’s about the same as going into the battlefield with one magazine of ammunition, a bullet in the leg, and going head on into the heavily armed opponents. When people still haven’t moved on after a break up, their judgment is clouded and impaired, so dating a break up is a big no-no unless you want to do the kamikaze.

Overall, it doesn’t take much to avoid breaking down after a break up. All it takes is a little knowledge of getting back on your feet after falling down.

Coping With Break Up – And Winning The Ex Back

If you are saying that you never felt pain after a break-up; you are either a robot or just a very cold, cold soul. In fact, even if the relationship has gone awry; breaking up is never a parting paved with good intentions. It is always a sweet sorrow to most of us. To the point, that there are people that make unwise decisions in order to cope with the depression caused by a break-up.
If you look back at the break up your initial reaction is to patch things up. Unfortunately, unlike a broken vase which you can mend using an epoxy; love don’t operate that way. The remedy for a broken heart is not superglue but lots of patience and rational thinking. The last thing you would do in a situation like this is to do something stupid that would make things worse. It is alright to shoot for a second chance if you feel the relationship is worth another shot. You should be not afraid to try to mend the broken ways. Just remember not to say anything stupid that can make the reunion a bit more difficult. It is not an excuse that you have said something out of frustration. Once you made that awful remark it will stay and haunt your relationship forever.
In order to cope with a break-up, take time to assess the event if the parting of ways was really called for. It will give you an opportunity to think over the situation. There is a possibility that the relationship has nowhere to go and ending it is the best for both parties. Be open to that reality and you won half the battle.
The last thing that you will do in order to make things worse and make a reunification difficult is to communicate with the ex. It is important to let both parties have a quiet time from each other. The break-up is bad enough that it is causing stress; the last thing that you need is further stress. Avoid communicating with the ex and let the other initiate the conversation in the future. If you avoid communicating with your ex; chances are they will be intrigued and would find ways to find out what is happening.
Sure a break-up is overwhelming and may cause heart problems. Broken heart syndrome is a heart ailment that is believed to be caused by depression caused by the loss of a loved one. However as we journey through our life cycle we will meet people and change is inevitable. The understanding of the dynamics of relationships is to understand that it may not last forever; no matter how you take care of it. It helps that you accept this things happen and it happens for a good reason.
As you let your heart heal it is best to follow these simple tips to let you cope with the agony and the depression of breaking-up. Talk with your friends and family. True friends will help you get through the agony and their presence can help you get your mind off the break-up. Also, go make yourself busy! This is the time to catch up on your reading or workout. Touch base with your brother or sister and spend time with them at the mall. The possibilities are endless if you know what to do to help get your mind away from the stressful end of the relationship.
Just remember you are not alone. Every person has felt one way or another, the agony of break-ups. It is natural so don’t argue as if you are the only person on earth that is feeling bad right now. Rather than sulk make most of the time to improve yourself and be the best you can be perhaps for the next relationship that comes along.

Dealing with the Pain of Breaking Up

Dealing with the pain after a break up is hard. It’s sometimes the most painful experience that one can feel in his/her lifetime that occurs every time you are in a relationship. More often than not, the pain is equal to that of losing a loved one who passed away.

Dealing with the pain requires a lot of patience, strength and effort. Dealing with the pain requires you to take time and recover from it, not jump into the sea of single women/guys. We all have different coping mechanisms to deal with pain, stress, heartbreak, and depression. But regardless of the difference, there will always be one or two methods that we all have something in common about. Here are just some of the different ways how to get over a break up.

1.)Do you want to get back with your ex?– Before the healing can actually start, you have to answer this question. Sometimes, getting back with your ex is in itself a healing process because you and your partner become better persons when you get back together and the relationship will last longer.
2.)Self– evaluation– If you answered NO on the first question, you are in the process of slowly moving forward on your own. This step is often the most difficult and most crucial part in any healing process because you are evaluating yourself. List down all your mistakes and what you did and what you didn’t do in your past relationship/s. Ask yourself questions like “did you let work get a hold of you when your partner needed you most?” or “Where was I when he/she needed me most?” or “Where did I go wrong?” and answer them honestly. The truth hurts but this is crucial if you want to become a better person and for you to start feeling better.
3.)Distraction– take time to relax and enjoy life’s pleasures. Go out on a vacation, pamper yourself, and get your adrenaline pumping and all those other things that people consider fun.

It’s normal to be hurt after a break up. What’s important is how you get back on your feet when you’re down. Don’t beat yourself too hard when you do the self evaluation. Admit to your mistakes and avoid doing them all over again. This will help you become a better person. I suggest you try dealing with the pain of breaking up first before you start fixing a broken relationship. It helps to get things started again with a clear head.